Being scared


I was coaching a client recently on being scared.  She is starting a new business, and her brain is giving her a list of all the things that could go wrong. She was feeling scared, and making it mean that maybe this wasn't such a good idea.

We talked about roller coasters.  People stand in long lines and pay lots of money to go on roller coasters.  We love the thrill!  Knowing that we are actually safe... we still love that rush of being scared.

Life requires us to do all kinds of scary things.   Having a baby can be scary.  Being asked to serve in a church calling that is way our of our comfort zone is scary.  Having a spouse or a child that makes "bad" choices can be scary.  Sometimes we have to move to a new place and meet all new people.  Maybe it's a health diagnoses that feels scary.  Scary is just a part of life.

What if that's not a bad thing?  In the pre-existence didn't we shout for joy at the chance to come on this roller coaster of life?  I bet we knew that the ride would include some scary parts, and we were all in.

Maybe feeling scared doesn't mean something is going wrong.  Maybe it means we are about to do something brave. Something big.  Something that will stretch us and make us stronger.  Maybe feeling scared means that everything is going right.

Have a brave week!

Christi




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