Default settings



Recently I had to reset my phone, and everything went back to the original default settings.  I have spent the last few days trying to customize my phone again- putting my own pictures on the screen, finding the ringtones that I prefer, getting the displays to look just right.  Without taking the time to personalize my settings, my phone just doesn't feel like my phone. It just feels like a phone.

Our brains have "default settings" too!  We have thoughts that we have been thinking for so long, that we sometimes don't even know they're optional!

"I'm not good enough.   I'm not doing enough."

"I'm pretty ordinary.  Nothing special."

"I can't function with a messy house."

"My life isn't where I  thought it would be at this point."

Did you know that all of those thoughts are completely optional??  Those (or other negative thoughts) may be running around unchallenged in your brain because you're operating on your default settings.

But the great news is... default settings can be changed!

Imagine if you really believed:

"I am good enough.  I'm doing exactly what I am supposed to be doing."

"I am one of a kind, and the world needs what I have to offer."

"I can function well- no matter what is going on around me."

"I am exactly where I should be in my life."

Changing the default settings in my brain allows me to go from just living a life to living my life.  The life that I choose. The life that I intentionally create.

You really can choose the life you want!  I can help you learn how.

And living an intentional life is a beautiful way to live.

Christi


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