Christi Davis Coaching

Do you ever wish you had more control over your emotions?  Do you sometimes over react, almost without thinking? If you're human and normal, then your answer is probably yes!  If you would like to be more intentional in the way you think, feel, and act, here is a great place to start: Practice being an observer of your mind. We know that we have a body and a spirit that are separate, right?  That means that our physical brains are not the only part of us doing the thinking. We all have a "natural man" brain, sometimes called the "lower brain," that is given to us as a tool to help us in this life.  It is concerned with our basic survival, so it is always on the lookout for trouble.  It sees problems and threats everywhere it looks! It is not interested in changing. It just wants us to do the things that are the easiest and most pleasurable.  This is the part of us that reacts without thinking. But we also have a "higher brai...

I have some confident kids. Recently my Eli (7 years old) went to his first archery "lesson," taught by 11 year old Jack, who is quite an expert for his age. The first words out of Eli's mouth when he came home were "Mom!  I'm pretty much MADE for archery!"  He was feeling great about his first lesson, and sees even better things in his future! His confidence is not based on any actual success.  He pretty much just decided he is going to be great at it.  And honestly... with that attitude he probably will be!  His confidence is the thing that drives him to keep at it and makes practicing fun.  He wants to talk about archery all the time, watch videos about it, and schedule lots of time to practice.   Here is the lesson that is so simply illustrated here: Confidence drives success! So many of us have it backward.  We think we will feel confidence after we have mastered the skill. But what if Eli was waiting until he...

Having my kids home for the summer is turning out to be wonderful and challenging. I am loving that my two youngest boys still like to hang out with me.  They love it when I plan activities, and are easy to please.  I love having my teenagers around in the mornings, and am so impressed with their levels of self motivation this summer!  My oldest daughter and her husband just moved into our back yard, and it is so fun having them around!  They are delightful and helpful, and add a lot to the party around here. The problem is my own brain.  My brain keeps telling me that it's hard to get things done with everyone underfoot all the time. The house doesn't stay clean.  I feel guilty when I'm trying to work, which leaves the kids alone playing video games.  I can't go to bed when I want because everyone is still up having fun. I've been telling myself that it feels like I am trying to run through thick mud.  I try to make progress, but my f...

I wrote this a few years ago, but I've been having these same thoughts lately, so I thought I'd share: I was so surprised during church to look down and see, folded neatly in my lap, my mother’s hands! I remember sitting next to her in church, looking at her hands and thinking how old they looked. Now those "old" hands are mine… complete with a club thumb! I feel some pressure from society to feel horrified by the fact that I don’t look as young as I used to, but today I don’t. As I sat looking at my hands, I thought of all that they accomplish. Just like my mother, and her mother, and her mother before that…these hands have done a lot of work. They have washed dishes, scrubbed floors, changed MANY diapers, wiped away tears, applied band-aids, and the list goes on and on. It’s only right that they are looking older and well worn. They have earned that! I thought about the rest of me, too. The slowly deepening creases on my face have the...